by shana | Sep 3, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Ever notice your fights have patterns? Here’s an example of one: “He just clams up when we talk about hard stuff. It drives me crazy! I get so mad and end up slamming the door to the bedroom and stewing until he apologizes.” Most couples fall...
by shana | Aug 13, 2015 | Uncategorized
It may be the thing you love most about him/her. It’s funny how annoyance or frustration is a form of bonding – only realized as such when that annoying habit is gone. Even though this is a commercial, it speaks well to the imperfections in...
by shana | Jun 11, 2015 | Uncategorized
I will never forget the delight on my husband’s face when our couples therapist said: “There is a beginning, middle and end in couples therapy.” And secretly, yes even as a therapist, I also felt relieved. It’s nice to know that a process has...
by shana | Jun 4, 2015 | Uncategorized
Try mindfulness. Dr Ahmed Mohammed describes it as a free, non-invasive yet proven way to decrease anxiety and depression. Ok, so obviously he’s a fan of his research! A video following him around the research lab:...
by shana | May 29, 2015 | Uncategorized
This emotional clip – ah…thank you reality TV – shows a young woman and her parents struggling with anxiety and depression. The judge asks her how she overcame her condition to audition, to which she replies, therapy and her parents. The attachment...
by shana | May 13, 2015 | Uncategorized
Many therapists are women. So men coming into couples therapy can often wonder if they will be ganged up on. A strong foundation of my work is that in a couple the fault and the solution are equally shared. ...
