The glue of relationships. Much of the research around couples therapy tells us what makes relationships stick, and as community we do hold a lot of wisdom intuitively. Stories are such a powerful way to communicate this, and the Glue Project delivers in an beautiful and engaging way. What I most appreciate about these videos are real people talking about real obstacles. Infidelity, a wandering eye, loss of a baby – all relationships will go through challenges at some point – and it helps to hear about how others got through. Here’s a rule to live by from a couple on the site: “Only one of us is allowed to be an asshole at one time.” No wonder that made it on a t-shirt!
Unfortunately, all the wisdom can fly out the window in a heated moment with your beloved. As therapists we’re taught how to make the wisdom stick when you are in your worst self. In our real lives and the real dynamic that you and your partner have it can be hard to implement what we know. In emotionally focused couples therapy we retrain the brain to come online when it’s going down an unwise path, increasing our ability to USE our wisdom!