Individual Therapy • Couples Therapy • Sex Therapy
Fights can spiral sometimes without reason.
You’re stuck blaming eachother.
You’re stuck in opposing roles. One reaches out to protest disconnection, sometimes in a negative way – the other steps back silently protesting implied criticism.
You’re stuck living parallel disconnected lives.
Sex… could be better
As a result you’ve ended up opposite teams, there’s tension, and you can’t productively communicate.
You want your marriage to make you more of you.
More sex, laughter and enjoyment.
A solid foundation to support all that you do.
Get Back on Track with Couple’s Therapy
STOP GOING AGAINST EACH OTHER, START GOING TOWARDS EACH OTHER.
We know love, it’s no longer a mystery.
We understand the underlying instincts that drive us together and apart.
We have the most effective interventions to build love and togetherness.
The Science of Love
The science of love has been researched on many different fronts and shows us how to create connections. We now understand that instead of love being a “semi psychotic mix of sex and sentiment”, “scientists have cracked the code on love” – Dr. Sue Johnson
Sex Therapy
SEX CAN BE INTEGRAL TOWARDS CONNECTION.
Perhaps you want to find the exciting part of sex again, or explore sexual potential.
You’re in a negative sexual dynamic with your partner.
You could have some pain, discomfort about sex or in your body.
You have concerns about your sexual functioning or desire, or have had a traumatic sexual experience.
We can work with any of this in couples and individual therapy.
Knowing isn’t enough.
We have targeted research, outcome studies, and lots of information and tips about couples, sex, marriage and psychotherapy. But, when it comes down to it, knowing is only a start. What’s key is having real change moments that alter your habitual patterns. So, whether you call it couple or couples therapy, couples counseling, marriage counseling, psychotherapy, or are looking for advice about your relationship to sort out communication problems, in the therapy process, you as a couple will go from knowing to being and doing.
Being a couple truly is a verb – actions and ways of being that become security over time. In psychotherapy, I help couples stop fighting each other and instead strengthen the relationship through couples therapy. My couples therapy method (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) consists of research validated interventions designed to build the emotional bond which is the foundation for building trust. From this foundation couples have a new freedom to mold their relationship as they choose.
Quick and dirty advice. Don’t want a divorce? Here’s what you do: stay together.
One of my favorite studies about marriage with a sampling of hundreds of mature couples came to this. I’ve spent years studying the nuances of psychotherapy to figure out the best way to help couples, and then coming back to this simple concept is both hilarious and wise. It’s not so much who you are with and if you are with the right person, but WHAT YOU DECIDE TO DO NOW. Keep trying as a couple, maybe with couples therapy or individual psychotherapy but regardless, STAY and you’re likely to find a way through.