by shana | Feb 12, 2016 | Communication Skills, counseling, couples therapy
We learn how to mirror at a very young age as shown here. As we get older it gets complicated, but all the basics are the same. As grown ups we might call it empathy, or recapping, listening, or curiosity, but basic verbal and non-verbal mirroring of another will...
by shana | Feb 5, 2016 | Anxiety, Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Money, recognition and what comes along with them are nice, (Hello Prada) but they won’t help you live longer and be happier. It’s having meaningful and safe relationships that cause longer lives and happiness. “…social connections are good...
by shana | Dec 18, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Sometimes you share with her and it helps and sometimes it…well makes it worse. This can often come down to empathy versus sympathy. Empathy is a word that comes up a lot in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. But the actual meaning of empathy can be vague....
by shana | Nov 13, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling
Ok, at least start with two… Don’t meditate, meditate on your relationship, and start feeling better right away says Thich Nhat Hanh in a conversation with Oprah. Side note: Do those two names really belong in the same sentence?!...
by shana | Oct 9, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
One of the most common things clients will say to me after an emotional session is: “This must be so hard for you, how do you do this all day?” As everyone does, I do of course have bad days and confusing moments; but what I do is more often than not very...
by shana | Sep 25, 2015 | addiction, Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Change takes repetition. A recent study conducted by Phillippa Lally, health psychology researcher at University College London and published in the European Journal of Social Psychology has found that on AVERAGE a new behavior takes about 66 repetitions before it...
