by shana | Jun 10, 2016 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Relationship Counseling
“It’s not hard to push a person away. The real work is to draw him close and uplift him.”- Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810) who is regarding as a Jewish mystic said this. And this is why we have Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy… Have you...
by shana | Jan 1, 2016 | counseling, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Relationship Counseling
But it’s still good. There are several gems of good relationship indicators in this video. https://shanareegann.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/Bob-Kim-Hallmark-PutYourHeartToPaper.mp4 I particularly love the line, “I look at him and see myself”....
by shana | Dec 18, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Sometimes you share with her and it helps and sometimes it…well makes it worse. This can often come down to empathy versus sympathy. Empathy is a word that comes up a lot in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. But the actual meaning of empathy can be vague....
by shana | Dec 11, 2015 | couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Psychotherapy, Uncategorized
I’m a fan of sweet talk, maybe because the south runs through half my family. I don’t mean sweet fake though, but sweet genuine. What if we did more acts of kindness like Shea Glover did in her video?...
by shana | Sep 10, 2015 | Anxiety, Communication Skills, Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Psychotherapy
This Alexandr Milov sculpture from Burning Man 2015 has an answer. You can’t quite see it in this picture, but the babies are holding hands. Enough said, art speaks for itself!
by shana | Sep 3, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Ever notice your fights have patterns? Here’s an example of one: “He just clams up when we talk about hard stuff. It drives me crazy! I get so mad and end up slamming the door to the bedroom and stewing until he apologizes.” Most couples fall...
