by shana | Mar 26, 2014 | Communication Skills
In therapy people learn to express vulnerability, which let’s face it, can be uncomfortable work whether you are in therapy on your own or with your partner. As Brene Brown says we numb vulnerability with our partners or others in our lives and that has a cost....
by shana | Mar 24, 2014 | How to Stop Fighting
Know specifics of what’s happening in your negative cycle. What I do… What you do… What I’m thinking about you… What I’m thinking about myself… My initial reactive feelings… My vulnerable feelings… What I guess your reactive...
by shana | Aug 10, 2013 | Relationship Counseling, Stressful Marriage
I do see a lot of couples who come in with a crisis – and yes this is the right place to come if that’s what’s going on. AND if you have a choice come in BEFORE the crisis becomes unmanageable. Or better, come in when you have only an inkling that there are...
by shana | Aug 10, 2013 | Premarital Therapy, Stressful Marriage
When I open the yearly bill for car insurance, it’s one of those bill opening grimacing moments – “ugh really I have to pay this for something I can’t imagine anything happening, I’m such a careful driver?!” But I have to say when a tree came down in a storm and...
by shana | Aug 10, 2013 | Relationship Counseling
If you and your partner are willing to come in, be committed to the process and have some patience to unwind engrained patterns it is never too late to do couples therapy.
