by shana | Sep 2, 2016 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling
Won’t anyone listen to me? Your dog might understand more than you think. An August 31 Washington Post Animalia article discusses a study about dogs and their ability to understand our communication. Dogs process both our tone and our words, and they do that...
by shana | Jun 17, 2016 | Anxiety, counseling, couples therapy, Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
I just watched an interview about Marianne Willamson’s newest book, Tears to Triumph; the video here is shorter but gets right to point! Burying the sad leads to more sad later. We spend a lot of time avoiding bad feelings, but it won’t necessarily make...
by shana | Mar 18, 2016 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Under duress do you like to escape into your man or lady cave? Just to get away from…you know who. In emotionally focused therapy we might call la-la land a withdrawing, distancing or avoidant attachment strategy. Is going to la-la land healthy or unhealthy?...
by shana | Feb 12, 2016 | Communication Skills, counseling, couples therapy
We learn how to mirror at a very young age as shown here. As we get older it gets complicated, but all the basics are the same. As grown ups we might call it empathy, or recapping, listening, or curiosity, but basic verbal and non-verbal mirroring of another will...
by shana | Feb 5, 2016 | Anxiety, Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Money, recognition and what comes along with them are nice, (Hello Prada) but they won’t help you live longer and be happier. It’s having meaningful and safe relationships that cause longer lives and happiness. “…social connections are good...
by shana | Jan 8, 2016 | couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Why is blame so seductive and trapping? Brene Brown explains why. https://shanareegann.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/Brené-Brown-on-Blame.mp4 Is finding fault part of your fights? If so what discomfort and pain might you be...
