by shana | Sep 3, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Ever notice your fights have patterns? Here’s an example of one: “He just clams up when we talk about hard stuff. It drives me crazy! I get so mad and end up slamming the door to the bedroom and stewing until he apologizes.” Most couples fall...
by shana | Aug 13, 2015 | Uncategorized
It may be the thing you love most about him/her. It’s funny how annoyance or frustration is a form of bonding – only realized as such when that annoying habit is gone. Even though this is a commercial, it speaks well to the imperfections in...
by shana | Aug 7, 2015 | couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Premarital Therapy, Relationship Counseling, Stressful Marriage
I go to couples therapy too, and contrary to my husband’s belief that as a therapist going to therapy is like candy for me (yum yum?), it can feel excruciating. Do I believe in therapy? – Yes! Do I love being a couples therapist? – Yes! I...
by shana | Jul 23, 2015 | addiction, Anxiety, couples therapy, Depression, Psychotherapy, Stressful Marriage
I just watched Johann Hari do a TED talk “Everything you know about addiction is wrong.” It gives us great information about how to stop addiction. He talks about the penal system we have created for addicts, and how that isn’t effective. You know...
by shana | Jul 9, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Premarital Therapy, Relationship Counseling
Different acts make each of us feel loved. You might be killing yourself cleaning up around the house, when what actually makes him/her feel loved is a long hug. Take the test and find out if words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or...
