by shana | Jul 1, 2016 | Uncategorized
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by shana | Jun 3, 2016 | Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Stressful Marriage, Uncategorized
This is a traditional Hawaian eulogy that was read at a friend’s memorial on the big island. And, upon reflection, it also brought to mind the moments of disconnection with our partners that can feel like a small dying inside. And even how transformative growth...
by shana | Jan 29, 2016 | Uncategorized
Dr. Sue Johnson’s study, now 25 years in the making will be soon published. From her books and other research, we know that love isn’t a mystery, it’s a wired in survival code to keep those we depend on close. Her study shows that we can now...
by shana | Jan 22, 2016 | Uncategorized
What else would you want to do on a Friday night? Perhaps not a first choice, BUT we can’t always control timing. Changing how you feel is a process often involving small steps. If you feel it’s time to get out of that jealous slump you’ve been in...
by shana | Dec 18, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Sometimes you share with her and it helps and sometimes it…well makes it worse. This can often come down to empathy versus sympathy. Empathy is a word that comes up a lot in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. But the actual meaning of empathy can be vague....
by shana | Dec 11, 2015 | couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Psychotherapy, Uncategorized
I’m a fan of sweet talk, maybe because the south runs through half my family. I don’t mean sweet fake though, but sweet genuine. What if we did more acts of kindness like Shea Glover did in her video?...
