Is the past important in therapy?

The past is useful to understand if it’s negatively impacting your present.  The Adverse Childhood Experiences Quiz (ACE) explains the extent to which we may be affected by past difficulties in the areas of abuse, neglect or family dysfunction. Physical or...

It’s Not About the Nail Video

On one level this video is just good comic relief.   But is it a common dynamic where one person in the relationship wants to fix the other?   One partner is often louder about the other changing.  But, usually this is just a symptom of a more ingrained cycle of...

Me is We

We are social beings that crave relationships. In 2013 there was a study at the University of Virginia showing how strongly human brains are wired to connect. When individuals were put under a brain scanner and then threatened to be shocked, the parts of their brains...

Expressive Writing

I often hesitate to recommend journaling – could a word be more associated with cliches? But behold … expressive writing … it’s the new journaling! This NYT article talks about the substantial research behind expressive writing and it’s...