by shana | Jun 3, 2016 | Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Stressful Marriage, Uncategorized
This is a traditional Hawaian eulogy that was read at a friend’s memorial on the big island. And, upon reflection, it also brought to mind the moments of disconnection with our partners that can feel like a small dying inside. And even how transformative growth...
by shana | May 20, 2016 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling
The glue of relationships. Much of the research around couples therapy tells us what makes relationships stick, and as community we do hold a lot of wisdom intuitively. Stories are such a powerful way to communicate this, and the Glue Project delivers in an...
by shana | May 6, 2016 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
I can get myopic about Mother’s Day, my mother, my mothering quest, my friends that are or aren’t mothers, that type of thing. This post from the Compassion Collective blows open that personal perspective. “Mother’s Day IS about Love. But it’s not...
by shana | Mar 18, 2016 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Under duress do you like to escape into your man or lady cave? Just to get away from…you know who. In emotionally focused therapy we might call la-la land a withdrawing, distancing or avoidant attachment strategy. Is going to la-la land healthy or unhealthy?...
by shana | Mar 11, 2016 | addiction, Anxiety, Depression
This is a funny spoof on prescription drug commercials and also a good reminder that while individual and couple therapy are awesome – wait I guess I’m biased (!)- there are other solutions out there....
