by shana | Sep 25, 2015 | addiction, Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Change takes repetition. A recent study conducted by Phillippa Lally, health psychology researcher at University College London and published in the European Journal of Social Psychology has found that on AVERAGE a new behavior takes about 66 repetitions before it...
by shana | Sep 3, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Uncategorized
Ever notice your fights have patterns? Here’s an example of one: “He just clams up when we talk about hard stuff. It drives me crazy! I get so mad and end up slamming the door to the bedroom and stewing until he apologizes.” Most couples fall...
by shana | Aug 7, 2015 | couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Premarital Therapy, Relationship Counseling, Stressful Marriage
I go to couples therapy too, and contrary to my husband’s belief that as a therapist going to therapy is like candy for me (yum yum?), it can feel excruciating. Do I believe in therapy? – Yes! Do I love being a couples therapist? – Yes! I...
by shana | Jul 23, 2015 | addiction, Anxiety, couples therapy, Depression, Psychotherapy, Stressful Marriage
I just watched Johann Hari do a TED talk “Everything you know about addiction is wrong.” It gives us great information about how to stop addiction. He talks about the penal system we have created for addicts, and how that isn’t effective. You know...
by shana | Jul 9, 2015 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Premarital Therapy, Relationship Counseling
Different acts make each of us feel loved. You might be killing yourself cleaning up around the house, when what actually makes him/her feel loved is a long hug. Take the test and find out if words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or...
by shana | Jun 18, 2015 | couples therapy
1) Learn to communicate – talk, talk, talk! 2) Get to know your partner well before marrying 3) Treat marriage as an unbreakable lifelong commitment – stay when it’s bad because you can come out with a fulfilling intact marriage 4) Learn to work as...
