by shana | Jun 17, 2016 | Anxiety, counseling, couples therapy, Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
I just watched an interview about Marianne Willamson’s newest book, Tears to Triumph; the video here is shorter but gets right to point! Burying the sad leads to more sad later. We spend a lot of time avoiding bad feelings, but it won’t necessarily make...
by shana | Jun 10, 2016 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, How to Stop Fighting, Relationship Counseling
“It’s not hard to push a person away. The real work is to draw him close and uplift him.”- Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810) who is regarding as a Jewish mystic said this. And this is why we have Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy… Have you...
by shana | Jun 3, 2016 | Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Stressful Marriage, Uncategorized
This is a traditional Hawaian eulogy that was read at a friend’s memorial on the big island. And, upon reflection, it also brought to mind the moments of disconnection with our partners that can feel like a small dying inside. And even how transformative growth...
by shana | May 20, 2016 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling
The glue of relationships. Much of the research around couples therapy tells us what makes relationships stick, and as community we do hold a lot of wisdom intuitively. Stories are such a powerful way to communicate this, and the Glue Project delivers in an...
by shana | May 6, 2016 | Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
I can get myopic about Mother’s Day, my mother, my mothering quest, my friends that are or aren’t mothers, that type of thing. This post from the Compassion Collective blows open that personal perspective. “Mother’s Day IS about Love. But it’s not...
by shana | Mar 18, 2016 | Communication Skills, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Under duress do you like to escape into your man or lady cave? Just to get away from…you know who. In emotionally focused therapy we might call la-la land a withdrawing, distancing or avoidant attachment strategy. Is going to la-la land healthy or unhealthy?...
