by shana | Jan 27, 2017 | couple therapy, couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, sex, Stressful Marriage
Sex Sex Sex! Sex is all over billboards movies and magazines. And it’s more than superficially important. According to the Kinsey Institute, an unsatisfying sexual relationship is associated with more breakups. Are We Normal? Statistically speaking, married...
by shana | Oct 14, 2016 | Breaking up, counseling, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Relationship Counseling, Stressful Marriage
What to do after marrying the wrong person? “Why you will marry the wrong person” was published in the New York times by Alan de Botton, and he gives us a quirky and intelligent answer. “We need to swap the Romantic view for a tragic (and at points...
by shana | Jun 3, 2016 | Depression, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Stressful Marriage, Uncategorized
This is a traditional Hawaian eulogy that was read at a friend’s memorial on the big island. And, upon reflection, it also brought to mind the moments of disconnection with our partners that can feel like a small dying inside. And even how transformative growth...
by shana | Aug 7, 2015 | couples therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Premarital Therapy, Relationship Counseling, Stressful Marriage
I go to couples therapy too, and contrary to my husband’s belief that as a therapist going to therapy is like candy for me (yum yum?), it can feel excruciating. Do I believe in therapy? – Yes! Do I love being a couples therapist? – Yes! I...
by shana | Jul 23, 2015 | addiction, Anxiety, couples therapy, Depression, Psychotherapy, Stressful Marriage
I just watched Johann Hari do a TED talk “Everything you know about addiction is wrong.” It gives us great information about how to stop addiction. He talks about the penal system we have created for addicts, and how that isn’t effective. You know...
by shana | Aug 10, 2013 | Relationship Counseling, Stressful Marriage
I do see a lot of couples who come in with a crisis – and yes this is the right place to come if that’s what’s going on. AND if you have a choice come in BEFORE the crisis becomes unmanageable. Or better, come in when you have only an inkling that there are...
