This is a traditional Hawaian eulogy that was read at a friend’s memorial on the big island. And, upon reflection, it also brought to mind the moments of disconnection with our partners that can feel like a small dying inside. And even how transformative growth while ultimately freeing, can feel disorienting as we are losing old safe patterns.
The breath of the laua’e fern is carried on the wind,Carried to the heart of those who love deeply,
I acknowledge the shores of mounting sea spray
There the unseen pulls me into confusion,
Pulls me here, pulls me there.
A misty fog has descended upon the lehua flower,
A misty fog has descended upon the lehua flower.
A relentless fog in the cold……..
The cold felt on the path to the foundation of life.
The path where we walked hand in hand until our parting. 
You have left, left me here alone.
This great suffering stirs a desire to leave with you,
But I endure and remain,
Remain here, accompanied by my longing to see you again.
translation by Kalena Silva